Tony Robbins

Why We Do What We Do

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    Feb 20 2011: confidence and positive energy that Robbins exudes is contagious.he makes you want to be a contributing human being without being used and abused

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    Feb 19 2011: The first time i saw Tony was in Shallow Hal – the Movie with Jack Black, followed him since then .. He is brilliant, gets the best out of you. His techniques are easy to undestand & can be implemented in the business enviromet. This talk is no different ..

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    Apr 13 2010: I want to make as many people's life better…but how can i do that ? I want to make as many people happy as possible, im just lost on how to do this.

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      Apr 17 2010: P A,

      I don't think we have the power to "make" people happy. We do have the ability to contribute to other peoples happiness however. We cannot give to others, something we don't honestly have in ourselves, so we can start with happiness in ourselves. If we can be happy (kind, content, joyful) in ourselves, it rubs off on others:>) What makes your heart sing? What brings you bliss? What creates peace and contentment in your life? When we experience those things in ourselves, we create happiness in ourselves and those around us:>) You're only "lost" when you deny yourself the opportunity to learn. Asking questions is exploring possibilities:>)

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        May 11 2010: WELL SAID COLLEEN

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          May 11 2010: Thanks Julie,

          That was a lesson learned when I was younger. I tried and tried to "make" someone happy, and sometimes felt like a failure because I couldn't! 

          I finally got it:>)

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        Jun 12 2010: Hi Colleen,

        You are the kind of person I would like to be around ๐Ÿ™‚

        I read in one of your posts that you have to deal with many serious ailments. I want to know, how much has your perspective of life changed due to these experiences? Does it make you appreciate things more or have you always been this way?

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          Jun 12 2010: You do like her to be AROUND, dont you?

          same here :))))

          Colleeen ๐Ÿ˜€

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          Colleen Steen 50+

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          Jun 12 2010: Thanks Ashwin and Ayse:>)

          I'm glad both of you are around as well:>) 



          Ashwin,

          I have mostly been a positive person. My mother was a wonderful model because she was content and at peace in herself. She was sure of who and what she was. Even though she was in a violent/abusive marriage for 65 years, she never gave up her humor, joy and unconditional love. I witnessed two polarities of "being" with my unconditionally loving mother and violent father. I had the opportunity to see how these people were impacted in themselves and impacted the world around them. I chose to be like my mother because I understood the overall ramifications of her loving being. To me, everything is an opportunity. When I sustained a near fatal head injury 20 years ago, all my old programing from my mother was expanded/intensified. Thank you for asking:>)

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        Sep 9 2010: I have to repeat what Kuan just said: "We cannot give to others, something we don't honestly have in ourselves." This made me pause.

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        Oct 13 2010: Totally agree to it. Well said.

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          Feb 13 2011: Thank you Nick and Anas. I apologize for using a name other than my own for awhile. I was resting under the name "Kuan Yin", goddess of compassion. 



          That statement causes me to pause and ponder whenever I think about it. We can often go through the motions of taking care of others, or try to "make" others happy, but if we don't honestly have that in ourselves, how can we give it to someone else? I believe our actions/reactions carry our energy, and as Juan insightfully states below, we can help create a situation for another person, then they have a choice as to how he/she will use it.



          In a comment below, "david corner" presents another piece of the puzzle.

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      Apr 19 2010: I must agree with Colleen, you can merely create the situation for a person, they must react either by gaining from the situation or ignoring it. Here's an example: A man on the train once asked for money for food, as he asked all the passengers before me, they mostly ignored him. When he came up to me, I offered him my sandwich(in which was my only meal for the day) and he said: "What the f* I want money I don't need no sandwich!" and continued on. My point being this: I created the situation for that "needy" man to gain something, but he instead ignored it. He could have said: "Thank you " and gained from my sacrifice, but didn't. You will find people that God will put in front of you to test your willingness to contribute to fellow man, it is up to you to accept that they will not always want your help. But at least you make the effort and the rest of the people will LOVE you for it. Your natural talents were given to you as tools for your mission to help others, USE THEM WISELY!!!

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        Apr 19 2010: Nice to see you again Juan…makes me smile to see you using your tools so wisely:>) Guess that "useless" label is long gone…good job:>)

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          Jun 12 2010: Colleen, I can't reply to your post below, so replying here. I had a very value based upbringing. I am lucky to have great parents ๐Ÿ™‚ I don't think I have faced very difficult circumstances yet. I am a spiritual person. Also, I meditate over things a lot and while doing so I have realized that the things that really matter are not that complex. They are simple (but not easy). They are oft repeated to us since childhood but we tend to forget/ignore them. You call me wise but I don't see anything that I have written in my comments here that is not common sense, that we don't already know. 

          Someone here said there is fine line between common sense and common practice. I think that sums it up nicely.

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        Jun 12 2010: Beautifully put Juan. I'm quoting you again here : "You will find people that God will put in front of you to test your willingness to contribute to fellow man, it is up to you to accept that they will not always want your help." 

        What you state here is very important. We need to remember that helping others is a previlege, a chance to become better ourselves. 

        Colleen, I like how you use '>' in you smilies :>)

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          Jun 12 2010: I like smiles:>) 



          So, how did you become so wise? I've told you part of my story. Now could we have the priviledge of hearing your story? I love interacting with people and would never deny myself the opportunity to learn, grow and evolve :>)

          oops…theres that smile again!!!

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        Jun 12 2010: Hi Ashwin,

        Thanks for your reply:>) I see your wisdom as your ability to ponder, meditate and see the different levels of understanding with any situation. I agree with you that we "know" a lot of the information, but sometimes authentic information gets covered up with fear based emotions caused by life experiences. When we get to the core of things, it is as you say…simple:>) The gift to yourself and the world, is to realize that…which you do:>)

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      Apr 19 2010: Research has shown that one of the best ways to make Other people happy, is becomming happy yourself! enough answer for now i think. Live with passion.

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      Jun 12 2010: I think we should start by being good beings. Do not hurt others, be honest, respectful, do not have grudges against others – all the things we learnt in primary school and have sadly forgotten. These will help you to be happy too. Once you are that person, many times, without your realizing, you would start affecting other people in a positive way. 

      The next step would be to be aware of the problems around you. Understand them, see which problems you are passionate about solving. An easy way would be to associate with an NGO of your liking. I'm not asking you to be a full time worker. Start by doing a little bit, but do start. Believe me, it does not take a lot to time contribute and the satisfaction you derive from it is great. I think this is all it takes for one to be a role model for others ๐Ÿ™‚

      We cannot do great things on this Earth, only small things with great love – Mother Teressa (love you Ma)

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        Jun 12 2010: Ashwin, you are a wise person:>)

        I believe children come into this world honest, respectful, open hearted, open minded and loving. Life experiences sometime cause us to build walls, defenses, masks around ourselves. I agree that understanding is an important part of living peacefully and It's important to understand ourselves first, as you say:>) While many people are searching outside themselves for contentment, I believe it is a matter of remembering who we are and why we're here. I believe I am a spirit being having a human experience, and each experience offers an opportunity to learn, grow and evolve. I agree…we cannot do great things on this earth, only small things with great love:>)

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        Aug 29 2010: Very wise, Ashwin, for a young person who had a rocky ride.

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      Jul 27 2010: Maybe the deeper question to ask yourself why you feel the need to make other people happy (rather than the question how). No matter how noble the intent, being primarily focused on the wellbeing of others (being a pleaser) is just as dysfunctional as being primarily focused on satisfying your own needs (being self-centered).

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        Feb 13 2011: Good question David. Could it be that the intent to make someone else happy is part of the process of creating happiness in ourselves? It feels good to help others, so we sometimes strive to do that in an attempt to feel better ourselves? We are often taught not to be self-centered, so does that prevent us sometimes from doing things for ourselves? Perhaps we are seeking a balance that satisfies our desire to take care of ourselves and others:>)

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    Nov 14 2010: Of all the times I've heard or listened to Tony Robbins (tapes, interviews, etc.), I've never heard him use profanity once. But, here, geez.

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    Jan 14 2011: As a coach I use many of Anthony Robbins' ideas and techniques. From my experience as a coach, the results I get with clients in different area's and in my personal life I can recommend Anthony Robbins wholeheartedly.

    The human needs psychology he is talking about here is one of several of the more fundamental ideas in his philosophy. If you liked this I can recommend his other work as well. By now I'm fairly familiar with his work. If you would like to discuss or have any questions I would love to oblige.



    On a side note: even though I understand that his style of expressing himself can be distracting from the content for some, I really implore you to look into his work.

    When it comes down to it, he is, in my opinion, someone who is very good at finding valuable techniques and ideas that work. The way he confers his message might not be the best way for some, but given his popularity and results it's safe to say he has made a huge and positive impact on many.

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    Dec 23 2010: Saludos desde Madrid, España. 

    Me encanta esta charla me hace meditar en la necesidad

    de ser mas generoso.

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    Dec 18 2010: Tony you are truly an inspiration to us. Dont change and keep that momentum…… Truly you have made large contribution to society!

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    Dec 14 2010: His specialty is knowing what drives human behaviour. Don't kid yourself – no matter how high your IQ, we're all subject to the same emotional forces that motivate us.



    Most of the problems in the world are human problems, not technological or intellectual ones. The solutions have to integrate the human condition. Tony makes it simpler for us idiots to understand psychology, motivation and human behaviour. 



    Since there are so few people who are good at explaining that, Tony has taken point.



    Also, for those offended by the swearing, you should know that Robbins carefully chooses every word he utters. As his partner, therapist Cloe Madanes puts it, "Robbins uses intense language as a way of breaking through formalities and niceties to establish an honest connection".

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    Dec 14 2010: Transformational vocabulary. Google it.. so true. You should listen to this once a month. Tony brought it in a great way. Thank you so much

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    Dec 14 2010: I can't stop watching and re-watching this great talk! Thank you Mr. Robbins!

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    Nov 21 2010: Wow! What a group of comments. For me, Tony is just one of many sources of insight and understanding. He does not contradict much of anything of the best of scholarship or practice and indeed works with many other people who are well respected in their disciplines. Like anyone else, he has a gift he wants to give as his place in our society and makes a business of it in the context of a "whole modern life". Enjoy.

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    Nov 10 2010: this is what happens when you channel testosterone into a speech!

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    Jan 20 2010: Well I get nothing from watching it for the 1st time. Actually I don't like Tony's way of speech, speaking too fast with that much emotion. Might because of my language problem but still feeling strange that it's in the top10 talk list.

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      Jan 29 2010: I seen Tony in Melbourne and he was acting sooo crazy. I think he'd been drinking but it looked kinda like anti-freeze spillede all over his shirt. He abused the whole audience before doing a Hitler impersonation and skinning a cat which he threw at a cripple in the audience. Then he plumb sat down middle stage and whittled some till they dropped the lights and pulled a curtain across. Plain enough there were shoutin and then a gunshot. There was an announcement about taking a 15 minute break but nobody would open the doors to let us out then the lights came up on stage and there was someguy standing on stage pretending to be Tony but we all done knew it t'weren't Tony cos the guy had a fake moustache on and everbody knows Tony got a reel moustache.

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        Feb 28 2010: Is this supposed to be a joke of some sort?

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        Apr 19 2010: Dude go TROLL somewhere else this is a place for intelligent people not childish fools that want nothing more than to joke about things that help people with life changing decisions and lessons!

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          May 4 2010: you are a junkie and your shaman is pushing bs to a bunch of people brain washed by "success".

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          May 4 2010: This man and people like him make those of us who already are good at understanding oursleves (which is far more than you junkies think it natural) actually dilute our souls and minds by listening to his AA hypnotic BS. Fuck Tony Robbins

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          Nov 4 2010: you guys are so jealous.. hahahah

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        May 11 2010: NICE TRY TONYS NEVER HAD A MOUSTACHE.

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      Apr 30 2010: It's true that Tony speaks so fast but.. it doesn't mean that you cannot get something from watching it.. because as you say, he talks with much emotion and this motivates you to listen him and try to understand every word he says. 

      I think it's an interesting talk because it shows you some meanings in life and makes you thing about your own person.

      Tony explains what moves you to make all the things you do, and I really thing that since now, I have never thought about it, 

      And… It's true.. at all, you have to give opportunities itself because, you can make anything happen. 



      (Elisabeth M.)

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      Nov 5 2010: Maybe if you have read Tony's books or listen to the course ,you can have a better understand.You know it's so difficult to express the 30-day system's quintessence in 20min. I really recommend you the 30-day system "personal power 2".And it is available both in Chinese(้ฉฑๅŠจๅŠ›2) and English MP3 by searching Baidu.Also the book "Awaken The Giant Within".All these things are aimed to change and master your state at any time

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      Nov 8 2010: As with everything in life i believe you have be not just hearing what he says. You have to listen.

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    Oct 18 2010: For all of you where this applies: Profanity is the crutch of the inarticulate………

    Look for the good in people, not where they fail, as we all do, since none of us are perfect.

    The only person you can control is yourself; instead of looking for the right person, be the right person. (answer this with humility, not hubris)

    If you were your son or daughter would you want them to marry you?

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      Oct 19 2010: "Profanity is the crutch of the inarticulate………"



      That is a ridiculous thing to say and I'm really sick of people saying it. "Profane" words are still perfectly valid words that can be used in the most articulate of ways. Just because someone drops the f bomb or something like that does not mean they are inarticulate. It means you are uncomfortable with the noise someone produced with their vocal chords. CONTEXT is everything when it comes to "profanity", just like it is for every other word.



      The most articulate person is someone that could potentially use all words in a language to get their point across perfectly. Not the person who won't use certain words because they make people uncomfortable for no apparent reason.



      Also, don't confuse being articulate with constantly using SAT words. It's having a good handle on the language and being able to use the right words to provide clarity in their spoken idea.

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    Oct 29 2010: Chinese (Traditional) subtitles didn't display on video. Will someone fix it?

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    Nov 1 2010: Tony has influenced 50 million people around the world to say the least. I want OurProperties.com.au to have franchisors and franchisees who can speak the same language and influence people the same.similar way. You are our idol TOny!

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    Nov 2 2010: America's favorite charlatan. I'm guessing that his favorite movie is The Music Man. For someone who talks a lot he says almost nothing, except in the area of self promotion.

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    Oct 26 2010: Mr. Robbins is talking very fast and very loud and his message appears to be very important, but his words are just phrases, without a deeper sense! The main effect of his speak results from his powerful and confidental way of presenting himself as very important. I don't believe him!



    The question, why we do things is very important and it's true, that most people don't know much about their real intentions. But Robbins doesn't know anything about it either!

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    Oct 12 2010: Your state of mind, Your State of Mind this is so true.Your state of mind determines your defining factor as he often said we usually do something then wondered why did I do or say that.Only to reflect on it and be like "thats so not me " or "wow", taking control of how your mind reacts to your impending universe is the key to improving oneself and achieving self mastery. I also enjoyed how he inadvertently applied Maslows Hierarchy of needs lol.I do see it necessary though for an active application of daily motivation in your life as it helps you to remain focused on your goals.http://inspirationadozen.com/ so as you get side tracked , you remember your why or motivational quote of the day and this can give you get that added spunk back into your day ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Jun 17 2010: I agree with the fact that the lecture is powerful and encouraging, but the way he talks makes me uncomfortable. Even though that is the way he jokes around, I think bullshit or fuck are not proper words for presentation.

    • Oct 8 2010: Somehow I perceived him as down-to-earth. Very typical agressive American in a good way. Yes, it is not proper to swear, but I look into him in a deeper level and be amazed of how he could become such a positive person despite his depressing childhood. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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    Oct 6 2010: That is an amazing speach. It reconfirms what I want to do – enable positive change, everywhere… Check out my site www.supercube.com

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    Sep 18 2010: Insightful and motivating, only diminished by his use of expletives. Sometimes these words enhance drama or emphasis and are effective additions. When used as throw-a-ways they're just distracting. Otherwise, a meaningful talk on direction.

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    Sep 17 2010: Find something you are passionate about that you truly want to achieve and work hard for it.. It is such a simple message that seems to be at the core of many talks / books / studies about success and motivation.

    Tony provides an interesting take in that his approach is to delve into the why and make you question what you do and what you really want to be doing – this can be difficult to face up to, but if you are honest with yourself can lead to a much more fulfilling and satisfying life.

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    Aug 21 2010: Tony is master of what he does. His reference to 6 human needs have truly helped me and my own clients. The human need for contribution is one thing that allowed me to change the direction of my business (still evolving). It is amazing – everytime I listen to him, something within me awakens and I just want to dream even bigger and think of who I am as a person. Too bad his new TV show was canceled. They were inspiring as well… Someone asked if it was possible to get a little of Tony's time: He might not be available but I know his capable son, Jairek, is a coach at Tony Robbins companies and you can access his wisdom. At minimum, just buy his very old book – awaken the giant within – the principles in there still applies to today's challenges and economy. Wish you all the best.

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    Aug 17 2010: One of the best talks on TED. This talk was what got me hooked onto TED. Awesomeness.

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    Aug 6 2010: Great talk, how do i get some time in person with Tony is what i want to know. He has so many talks.. I like his approach compared to most self help gurus, that stuff can make it all confusing, he makes it simple and we make it difficult, patturns and shit…. What a powerful person! 



    for TED.com peeps: the audio download wont work but the video will..

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      Aug 14 2010: Not to sound confrontational, but the answer is to write a 7 digit check ๐Ÿ™

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    Aug 5 2010: I'm not sure if Tony has time to read these comments…So many different reactions…A question came to mind for Tony. Why would one love you? Why would one judge/criticise/hate you?

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    Jul 30 2010: He started out nicely, got a little obnoxious with the cursing, and then totally lost me in the end. His speech was just confusing. I rather watch the "Dog Whisperer" and get my motivation from Cesar Milan.

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    May 17 2010: Instead of giving out free turkies on Thanksgiving and Christmas the best solution is to abolish holidays that celebrate family which creates misery for people who don't have loved ones or money to participate in it. Valentine's day is another one that perpetuates commercialism over the sensitiviy of the individual who is single. Veteran's and Memorial day also celebrate shopping and causes untold misery to the unappreciated soldiers.



    Only one holiday in the year should be celebrated, and that is Halloween.

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      May 29 2010: Every day of the year should be a holiday, a day to celebrate and to give.. Why limit? No matter how small or big. Celebrate life, celebrate every day…

      However, we are all great and you are of course entitled to your opinion, just as much as I am mine

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        Jul 5 2010: Eric, agree with your thoughts but would like to add that "not every day" we can celebrate as a holiday. Sometimes we face a tremendous pressure on many things at once and that day is worst for all of us. No matter how much try but for one specific day we can't celebrate….there are moments in life where we are struck and we sometimes can't think better…but yes we need to try and remain positive all the times no matter how much bad time we have…I was just pointing to the reality. Hope you got my point here..

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      May 30 2010: I agree Eric, every day offers opportunities to celebrate life. As long as people buy into the commercialism (pun intended) of holidays, it will continue. 



      Since this is Memorial Day weekend for some of us…let us remember what it is about.

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      Jun 24 2010: Since when is Halloween not a commercial holiday? Candy and costumes must be bought for it…

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        Jul 23 2010: Before marketers got a hold of it, Halloween was a Christian vigil prior to All Saints Day. Just like Easter and Christmas, many people no longer know the real meaning of these Christian holidays. It is a sad thing to think that people feel obligated to buy sweets, costumes, presents and/or cards because advertisers tell them too.
         

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